Going "boo hoo people are being mean" shouldn't mean shit to a moderator.
Issac, I'm sure that if you were on the receiving end of it or seen people close to you on the receiving end, your perspective would be different.
Who isn't on the receiving end of it? If I'm fighting with someone the last thing I need is a loser pretending to be a superhero with mod tools to "save the day". What shitty mods don't realize is, the moment someone in an internet argument feels like they're talking to a wall, they move on.
No, actually they don't. Most of the people on the internet, in my experience, aren't capable of comprehending that some people simply will not change stances. Whether that's from the fact that it's hard to convey tone over text or simply evidence of how were progressively insulating ourselves more and more from viewpoints we disagree with, I don't know. But a more accurate analogy would be that a lot of people change weapons when they feel they're not making headway. Out come the insults and flames and homosexual slurs and the overdramatized incredularity, etc.
And here is one good thing I will say about the people in E&C: they at least have some rudimentary respect for eachother. That's probably the only thing that seems to be keeping that hellhole from descending from the anarchy it is now into bedlam.
And since I am a moderator on a hockey discussion board, I will use some hockey terms to explain to you what moderators actually do.
We are not here to guide your discussion to the logical and pertinent.
We are not here to hold your hand.
We are not here to make sure you do not take offense to something.
We are not here to be your friend.
We ARE here to make sure things are kept under control such that no line brawls break out, or worse, the benches clear entirely. We call penalties and offsides and icings and we try to do it as fairly and impartially as possible.
We're not superheros. The vast majority of moderators are the reluctant members of your hockey team who stop playing the game and pick up the refs whistle because they know if the game doesn't have a damned ref if could get out of hand real fucking fast.
If you want to make a moderators job easier, follow this one simple rule: argue the post, not the poster. If you disagree with someones idea, critique the idea. Say that idea is the dumbest piece of crap idea you've ever heard. Do NOT call the person who posted it the dumbest waste of dump that's ever graced the internet.
Basic. Fucking. Civility.
And before you go crying "free speech!" realize this: this is a private establishment. Free speech does not apply here. Free speech means the government can't come in and throw you in jail for expressing your opinions or spouting your pedantic bullcrap. If a moderator deletes your post or closes your thread, they are not infringing upon your right to free speech. They're telling you you've been a bit of a jerk and you should learn to follow the rules better.
Learn to articulate yourself better. You can blow one hell of a hole through someones argument without resorting to insulting their person. Once you nail down that skill you'll find that a lot more of your posts are surviving their encounters with moderators.
And show some bloody respect to your local mod staff. They're not paid jack and they have to put up with a bunch of people who often end up behaving like temper tantrum throwing babies. Much like how you're currently acting with regards to moderation, Issac. Be better than that.