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I had to post this one on top in relation to the other thread about Jason Alexander, bullying and civil discourse, because this incident really underscores the degradation of civility in our society and really made me mad to watch.

WTF is wrong with our kids! Bullying an ADULT for crissakes! Where are they being taught politeness and civility, especially towards their elders? The gutter? I'd hate to be their classmates! And why are schools being reactive instead of proactive towards this type of behavior? And where the hell are the parents and why are their kids such nasty little snots? I'm willing to bet if that woman had clocked one of those boys, his little arrogant, self-centered parents would have sued the school district and charged her with battery! She sure had the patience of Jobe, because I might not have not been so restrained around those boys, damn the consequences. :x



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slap the parents for not bringing up the kids properly. then let the parent slap the kids for what they did.
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Can't let the thread go by without linking again to Paul Graham's thoughts in his piece about how school culture mirrors prison culture and why.
"Why Nerds are Unpopular"
http://www.paulgraham.com/nerds.html

i think of of in terms of a bullying culture, that these kids are growing up in.
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Like I said in another post, all human behaviors are driven by 2 traits, dominance and submission. It's how society deals with those traits that's important in how we learn to interact with one another and how we can put a stop to intimidation and bullying. Civilized behavior is not something kids are born with. It must be nurtured and taught when young, especially by the parents and definitely bolstered by the schools, since they have the kids as a captive and ready audience and can see first hand a child's behavior outside their parents view.
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tunnelcat wrote:Civilized behavior is not something kids are born with. It must be nurtured and taught when young, especially by the parents and definitely bolstered by the schools, since they have the kids as a captive and ready audience and can see first hand a child's behavior outside their parents view.
I would contest contest the idea that a school as an organization has any real role in "bolstering" civilized behavior, beyond employing civilized teachers who are well equipped to encourage/insist on proper behavior in children. Our school systems, particularly as public entities, have no business shaping society--they are there to serve society, not to have a hand in determining it.
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The school system is single-handedly responsible for shaping society. Just from the fact that every child in America spends 12 years of their life there. It's not a question of if the school system should shape society, but how. Are they doing it according to the parents wishes, staying neutral, or shaping according to some other purpose? These are just questions ;)
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You're right flip. Just the fact that they have the responsibility and undivided attention of most of our children for at least 8 hours a day, they have to have a major influence. I remember back when I was in school in the 60's and 70's. They had a much more authority to dole out the proper punishment for any child's misbehavior and the parents would back them up. It was called "in loco parentis", which means "in place of the parents". Now, I'll bet many parents would sue if the school for even yelling at their kids.

The other problem is that there are very few male teachers now. They're a much better authority figure for adolescent males testing the limits of what they can do. Females, even adults, just aren't respected as authority figures to young males.
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tunnelcat wrote: The other problem is that there are very few male teachers now. They're a much better authority figure for adolescent males testing the limits of what they can do. Females, even adults, just aren't respected as authority figures to young males.
That was a major issue in the Catholic grade school I attended...sadly, the salary the teachers received was too paltry to serve as the primary source of a family's income, so you weren't going to find many men trying to start a family working at that level. I think my younger brothers had one or two male teachers, but they left within a few years for higher-paying positions elsewhere.
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Comes back to school funding doesn't it? Republicans in my state like to de-fund the public schools and universities because they think they're bad, socialist, child indoctrinating, elitist, whorehouses. Then all the male teachers have to leave because the pay sucks, so there are no longer any good authority figures and the kids run wild and trash each other like in a fight club instead of learning something. Then they do more de-funding to totally kill schools off so that everyone will have to pay more to go to private schools. Hey, what an exceptional idea! Death by a thousand cuts! :P
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Adults are not allowed to complain about our generation when their generation shot the economy to hell, subsidized the higher educational system so much it's almost caved in on itself, generously gave us all tens of thousands of dollars in pointless student debt, and turned our entire country into a f*cking plutocracy.

Adults are not allowed to say that our generation is uncivil when their generation is the one that opposes gay marriage, runs around screaming about religious bull★■◆●, and votes for politicians to take their money away without understanding a damn thing they're even voting for.

Your generation is just as fucked up as mine. This argument is just as invalid as it was 5000 years ago, and every time it has been repeated, tirelessly, without fail, to every single generation of human beings ever born. I am utterly sick and tired of hearing it. Shut up.
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tunnelcat wrote:Comes back to school funding doesn't it? Republicans in my state like to de-fund the public schools and universities because they think they're bad, socialist, child indoctrinating, elitist, whorehouses. Then all the male teachers have to leave because the pay sucks, so there are no longer any good authority figures and the kids run wild and trash each other like in a fight club instead of learning something....
and the first rule of 3rd rail issues, is you do not talk about 3rd rail issues.

wow you're right it is like fight club :lol:
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Blackhole wrote:Adults are not allowed to complain about our generation when their generation shot the economy to hell, subsidized the higher educational system so much it's almost caved in on itself, generously gave us all tens of thousands of dollars in pointless student debt, and turned our entire country into a f*cking plutocracy.
Ya know, you're right. But the WWII generation before the Boomers is even more spoiled! Every time I listen to Tom Brokaw, I want to strangle him! What an ingrate! They've mostly turned into tea party corporate buttkissers, who didn't have to fight in WWII or Vietnam, were too young to remember the Depression, could afford a house back when they got married and had their requisite kids (namely us Boomers), went to college on a dime, found a job with good pay, are presently getting the highest Social Security and Medicare bennies like unending candy, are expecting everyone else to pay for their expensive end of life care through private-for-profit insurance, and they were blessed to have lived during the most prosperous time in American history. So essentially, they have lived the highest off the hog of all the recent generations, while the tail end Boomers like me, but especially the Gen-Xer's and Millennials, have become debt slaves to the corporate masters for their college education, are going to get screwed out of SS and Medicare, have to work until they die and probably go bankrupt with the now exorbitant medical costs as they get older and sicker. That's not including having to live in a walled fortress if they are fortunate to have any money, because the way things are going, there will be those with money, and far more of those without, since the middle class is a disappearing entity. My idiot father is from that generation, and even with all his wealth and cushy medical insurance, HE gripes about having to pay taxes to maintain all those things took for granted back when he was young!
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Blackhole wrote:Adults are not allowed to complain about our generation when their generation shot the economy to hell. ...
Normally when you do "A because B" 'A' should remotely have something to do with 'B'. No one's complaining about your generation, politically, bud. ;) Be careful not to defend the indefensible. An awful lot of kids these days just have no concept of grace, civility, respect, politeness, self-restraint... I really could go on--there's quite a list. I would say that in my experience a fair number of them are nice enough when you get down to a personal level, they just have no guidance. It hurts them, and in some cases they end up more or less destroying themselves for lack of a mature hand at the helm. There are exceptions, but most of them aren't in the same crowd.

Let me ask you something, would you yell something rude or even borderline at someone you don't know with no provocation other than that they happened to be passing? I would never have dreamed of it, and when I was a kid only a few decades ago it was very uncommon compared to today. Now they seem to think it's cool. Being unrestrained is cool!

You basically lost when you stepped in here to throw your angst in the face of a bunch of adults and insist that they "shut up", because that's sort of a tamed down version of the OP article, to look at it from another angle. :?
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I should probably mention that my personal gripe is not so much with the younger generation as it is with the ones brought them into the world and neglected to parent them--this was already happening when I was young. As far as I know it was probably happening even before then, I suppose the jerks just multiplied... a lot. So how about it, Blackhole? Are you a jerk? Are you a likable jerk, or are you the jerk I could go to jail slapping around for yelling some disrespectful remark at me as I bike or skate past? Hey, at least the random little sonofabitch isn't against gay marriage, though he seems to have a problem with me making my way past on a public sidewalk with dignity. How wonderfully evolved of him!

EDIT: I should add that I don't hate these kids, or even expect this kind of behavior of every young person I come across (foolishly optimistic as that may be at times). It just never fails to annoy me that some stranger would disrespect someone who in my case means them nothing but good, and would even go out of my way to help them. It's a sorry thing when a person's behavior does not dignify good social behavior in others.
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My gripe here is not defending the behavior involved or even suggesting that my generation is somehow not as screwed up as you argue it is. Of course my generation is screwed up - we are demonstrably spoiled and badly parented. The problem is that yours was screwed up too, just in a different way, and the misconception that one generation is somehow more screwed up than the other is simply confirmation bias.
Hey, at least the random little sonofabitch isn't against gay marriage, though he seems to have a problem with me making my way past on a public sidewalk with dignity. How wonderfully evolved of him!
This is actually a superb example of exactly what's going on here. You aren't placing enough importance on tolerance and are instead fixated on other problems, as if they are somehow more important. You are horrified that some kid would walk down a street and yell obscenities at you for no reason. However, you brush aside the fact that your generation denied gays the right to marry. Your generation drove kids to commit suicide and we're still trying to put a stop to it. Your generation tried to dictate what "love" was and for. That is just as disgusting and horrifying as some kid screaming at you on the sidewalk, just in a different way. A "violates fundamental human rights" kind of way.

What truly annoys me here is not that you are pointing out clearly valid flaws in my generation, it is simply the concept of "Kids these days" that seems to seep in to the conversation when it is a wholly invalid argument sustained only through the golden lens of memories providing infinite amounts of confirmation bias. If you want to criticize kids, you may do so, but only without saying that your generation would somehow never stoop to that level, because your generation stooped to levels far lower than mine in entirely different areas. For that matter we are also disregarding economical concerns and the fact that "back in the day" there wasn't a giant poverty-to-wealth gap the size of texas, and the economy wasn't completely broken, which could also be used by your generation to defend the poor parenting that is aggravating these issues. For all we know this could be a bizarre consequence of multiple economic factors and little else. Hypocrisy solves nothing.
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With the advent of Rock & Roll, kids of all generations went to hell in a hand basket. Fortunately most of them grow up and become responsible adults.
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I'm sorry, I know you guys are all serious, but I'm honestly finding this thread amusing. :mrgreen:

It just reads like the "young punks vs. old geezers" stereotype...
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Foil wrote:I'm sorry, I know you guys are all serious, but I'm honestly finding this thread amusing. :mrgreen:

It just reads like the "young punks vs. old geezers" stereotype...
I can't quite tell if people are trying to troll, or are actually trying to present an argument.
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Just when does one switch over from being a "young punk" to an "old geezer"? I would probably fit into the "old geezer" category just do to my age, but I do use the internet and most of today's technology without freaking out, unlike my "old geezer" dad. So does that make me a "geezer punk"? :P
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Blackhole wrote:the misconception that one generation is somehow more screwed up than the other is simply confirmation bias.
I know that the bias you're speaking of is often at play--it's one of the many blind spots common to humanity--but in the same way that the fact that I'm paranoid doesn't mean they're not out to get me--just because there's bias at play doesn't mean children aren't more and more screwed up (sounds bad to say it that way). What we're seeing is children who weren't given the proper guidance--growing up and taking bringing in the next generation to new lows. There are so many opportunities to knock some young person upside the head because they're doing something where they ought by all reasonable measures to know better. And I think Spidey's Woodchip's got something when he says "then they grow up", but you shouldn't deny what is lost in the process--it is a downward trend, and it's only reversed through force of character (not naturally).
Blackhole wrote:This is actually a superb example of exactly what's going on here. You aren't placing enough importance on tolerance and are instead fixated on other problems, as if they are somehow more important. You are horrified that some kid would walk down a street and yell obscenities at you for no reason. However, you brush aside the fact that your generation denied gays the right to marry. Your generation drove kids to commit suicide and we're still trying to put a stop to it. Your generation tried to dictate what "love" was and for. That is just as disgusting and horrifying as some kid screaming at you on the sidewalk, just in a different way. A "violates fundamental human rights" kind of way.
Whole new can of worms. I was being sarcastic in the first part of that. I don't believe that homosexual behavior is healthy for an individual or a society. And I believe that the acceptance of homosexuality has been a matter of a successful breakdown of moral barriers rather than instilling any genuine tolerance--and leaving people with no good reason to oppose it, but only emotional and pseudo-scientific reasons to accept it, with the alternative of being ostracized as a biggot.

Another thing I will say is that when it comes down to it I place a lot of importance on tolerance, I just happen to know that most people have a really wacked-out, shallow concept of what tolerance is. I've worked with a man who divorced his wife and left his children for another guy. I would never consider someone like that to be a good example of humanity or morality (though the college he teaches at seems to think so), but I wouldn't use it as an excuse to treat him unfairly either. By the way it wouldn't be unfair to call him on it, or to insist that he is not a fit example for young people. IMO people have a certain amount of liberty to do what they will in this country, and in any civilized social structure, but I'm not going to lend my approval to a perverted institution like gay marriage and that's all your "denied gays the right to marry" actually means, once you decode it. I'll go a step further and say that generally speaking neither my generation, the one before it, nor yours really has a ★■◆●ing clue what love is all about, and what's left there is fast fading.
Blackhole wrote:What truly annoys me here is not that you are pointing out clearly valid flaws in my generation
Fair enough. (I'm bad) :twisted: :P
Blackhole wrote:If you want to criticize kids, you may do so, but only without saying that your generation would somehow never stoop to that level, because your generation stooped to levels far lower than mine in entirely different areas.
Really? Besides your questionable argument about slaver... er homosexuality, throw me an example. And forget about politics, because that is not a generational issue, unless you want to argue that young people these days are taught a screwed up, Hollywood edition of democracy, America, freedom, and the constitution.

P.S. When you're talking my generation you're actually talking late 20s to early 30s.
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Sergeant Thorne wrote: And I think Spidey's got something when he says "then they grow up"
Huh, I’m starting to think you guys have got hacked boards.
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Sorry! :oops:
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